I decided to go to the internet café last night at about 9pm and while I was sitting there a chick came in and said hi to me and sat next to me. It was Tania, the chick I met a few months ago when she was with her friend Lisa.
This time she was on her own. I finished my surfing, we left the café together and we started walking. I said I was going to head home soon, but she wanted to go for a drink. From that moment on, because she had instigated the extension of the interaction, I knew something with her was possible.
We walked and talked. We chatted about music, about actors and the qualities she likes in them. I linked those qualities to myself and told stories to entertain her. All the while I made sure we were walking in the direction of her apartment. We stopped at a place for a drink but I instantly knew it was terrible for sarging – it was super busy with bright lights glaring down. I suggested going somewhere else. Anywhere would have been better for intimate connecting.
We continued walking to her apartment and went into a bar right outside where she lives. How coincidental was that? I’d planned it that way, of course. If we hadn’t gone to a place next to her apartment, I’d have led her to a bar next to my apartment.
Inside, the bar was darker and less busy – much better for the kind of chatting that leads to a good sargey mood. We ordered drinks and I started gathering trance words as she spoke. I fed the themes and trance words back to her and really got inside her mind. As I got totally relaxed around her and could see she was relaxing a lot around me, I turned my body more towards her as a reward. I initiated kino on her, and she began playing with her hair all the time as we spoke during the rest of the night. She wasn’t returning kino and I put this down to her being in a public place.
I built a connection – I do this well and she was mirroring me – a sure measure that we were in deep rapport. I made sure to bring in wide rapport too, so the conversation was varied and flowed on many subjects. I set up an Us Versus Them frame and this worked very well to boost rapport even higher than it already was. I did this by talking about our shared experience of being English in Spain together. I also noticed she talked about her friends in England not knowing what it is like to have lived abroad. I amped up those thoughts and dropped in suggestions about only someone who can be on the same wavelength, who has been in this position, who has lived abroad and shared these experiences can know that sense of what it is like. I played it up and included her words of “isolation”, and “separation”, making sure to provide myself as the suggested solution to that isolation. I also keep it light at times by telling some stories and making light playful comments such as “I’d never hit a girl…with her clothes on!”
She talked about the time when we first met and she said she almost wrote me off. This was instructive to me because when we first met I had run a very hardline C&F game on her and Lisa. It’s clear to me now that I over did it and I had over-qualified myself to them. I’d stood out for sure, they’d thought I was really bright, but they thought I was a jerk. That’s not a problem for me though because I was acting that way by design.
Acting hardline C&F almost lost me this chick, and as of a couple of months ago I have dropped the C&F material except in the lightest of uses because I was over-doing it and getting reactions like the one Tania was telling me about. She was clearly seeing a lot of potential in me tonight and was thinking to herself that she’d almost written me off as someone not to hook up with again. I told her that I sometimes use a persona to shield myself because I’ve been hurt in the past. I could have said “I was testing out an extreme cocky and funny frame when I met you back then, Tania, but I’ve come to see that it is not helping me to bang chicks as much as my old frame, so I’ve decided to drop it.”
I didn’t say that, though, I told her it is not easy to be open with people in today’s world when it is so easy to get hurt by people. She bought it and we got talking about the poetry she writes. All the while I was making sure to focus the conversation on satisfying her needs. A while ago I’d stopped doing this, thinking it wasn’t alpha, but now I see the possibility of running a tight rapport game and still being alpha due to your frame – you are still non-needy and have already run attraction material and displayed your value to her through your way of communicating with her. When you interact in the right way with chicks, coming at them from a non-needy, genuine acceptance that you are the prize, it is possible to run good rapport game and still be seen as alpha. That’s something important I’ve realized quite recently. I was doing that for years anyway, but just didn’t see the structure of it.
So I got invited up to her apartment to check out some of her poetry. We go upstairs and she says her bedroom is a mess so we can’t go in there. I don’t push it, so we sit on the sofa and she brings out some of her poetry. In the room next door there is a German couple sleeping, these are her housemates. I first do palmistry on her and then handwriting analysis, suggesting all the while she is feeling the need to open up and break free of her self-restriction.
All the while I am kinoing lightly, fishing for kino reciprocation but she is not offering it. I figure she is shy and either needs to feel more comfortable (less likely) or she needs to get turned on a little and be led. We right next to each other and our bodies are contacting a lot more now. There’s a book on the sofa of Spanish swear words, and I pick it up and flick through it, saying some of the phrases to her and translating them – things like “I want to fuck you doggy style” and “Suck my cock”. She seems to have an interest in this (hey it’s HER book after all!) and starts reading the book to me in return. I can see she is awakening into a more sexual state.
I accuse her of corrupting me, telling her that I am an innocent boy and she is such a bad girl, and I’ll go home to England totally corrupted. She laughs at that and plays along with it, she slaps me playfully and I slap her back a little. We get into a little fun fight and start making out on the sofa. After a few minutes she takes my hand and leads me to the bedroom. I tell her I want to put my new Spanish phrases into practice in case I forget them. I strip her and we practice some of the phrases and actions I’d learned from her book for the next couple of hours while trying to keep quiet because of the couple across the hall. Trying to be quiet makes it even more fun, like trying not to laugh in class when you know the teacher is watching you and suspects you of laughing. “Shhh”, I tell her again and again, but it doesn’t help. Maybe it even makes her worse. Chicks, sheesh, what can you do, though?
Her bedroom IS a mess, and even messier by the time I head home with my laptop through the 3am streets and past the closed bars.
This time she was on her own. I finished my surfing, we left the café together and we started walking. I said I was going to head home soon, but she wanted to go for a drink. From that moment on, because she had instigated the extension of the interaction, I knew something with her was possible.
We walked and talked. We chatted about music, about actors and the qualities she likes in them. I linked those qualities to myself and told stories to entertain her. All the while I made sure we were walking in the direction of her apartment. We stopped at a place for a drink but I instantly knew it was terrible for sarging – it was super busy with bright lights glaring down. I suggested going somewhere else. Anywhere would have been better for intimate connecting.
We continued walking to her apartment and went into a bar right outside where she lives. How coincidental was that? I’d planned it that way, of course. If we hadn’t gone to a place next to her apartment, I’d have led her to a bar next to my apartment.
Inside, the bar was darker and less busy – much better for the kind of chatting that leads to a good sargey mood. We ordered drinks and I started gathering trance words as she spoke. I fed the themes and trance words back to her and really got inside her mind. As I got totally relaxed around her and could see she was relaxing a lot around me, I turned my body more towards her as a reward. I initiated kino on her, and she began playing with her hair all the time as we spoke during the rest of the night. She wasn’t returning kino and I put this down to her being in a public place.
I built a connection – I do this well and she was mirroring me – a sure measure that we were in deep rapport. I made sure to bring in wide rapport too, so the conversation was varied and flowed on many subjects. I set up an Us Versus Them frame and this worked very well to boost rapport even higher than it already was. I did this by talking about our shared experience of being English in Spain together. I also noticed she talked about her friends in England not knowing what it is like to have lived abroad. I amped up those thoughts and dropped in suggestions about only someone who can be on the same wavelength, who has been in this position, who has lived abroad and shared these experiences can know that sense of what it is like. I played it up and included her words of “isolation”, and “separation”, making sure to provide myself as the suggested solution to that isolation. I also keep it light at times by telling some stories and making light playful comments such as “I’d never hit a girl…with her clothes on!”
She talked about the time when we first met and she said she almost wrote me off. This was instructive to me because when we first met I had run a very hardline C&F game on her and Lisa. It’s clear to me now that I over did it and I had over-qualified myself to them. I’d stood out for sure, they’d thought I was really bright, but they thought I was a jerk. That’s not a problem for me though because I was acting that way by design.
Acting hardline C&F almost lost me this chick, and as of a couple of months ago I have dropped the C&F material except in the lightest of uses because I was over-doing it and getting reactions like the one Tania was telling me about. She was clearly seeing a lot of potential in me tonight and was thinking to herself that she’d almost written me off as someone not to hook up with again. I told her that I sometimes use a persona to shield myself because I’ve been hurt in the past. I could have said “I was testing out an extreme cocky and funny frame when I met you back then, Tania, but I’ve come to see that it is not helping me to bang chicks as much as my old frame, so I’ve decided to drop it.”
I didn’t say that, though, I told her it is not easy to be open with people in today’s world when it is so easy to get hurt by people. She bought it and we got talking about the poetry she writes. All the while I was making sure to focus the conversation on satisfying her needs. A while ago I’d stopped doing this, thinking it wasn’t alpha, but now I see the possibility of running a tight rapport game and still being alpha due to your frame – you are still non-needy and have already run attraction material and displayed your value to her through your way of communicating with her. When you interact in the right way with chicks, coming at them from a non-needy, genuine acceptance that you are the prize, it is possible to run good rapport game and still be seen as alpha. That’s something important I’ve realized quite recently. I was doing that for years anyway, but just didn’t see the structure of it.
So I got invited up to her apartment to check out some of her poetry. We go upstairs and she says her bedroom is a mess so we can’t go in there. I don’t push it, so we sit on the sofa and she brings out some of her poetry. In the room next door there is a German couple sleeping, these are her housemates. I first do palmistry on her and then handwriting analysis, suggesting all the while she is feeling the need to open up and break free of her self-restriction.
All the while I am kinoing lightly, fishing for kino reciprocation but she is not offering it. I figure she is shy and either needs to feel more comfortable (less likely) or she needs to get turned on a little and be led. We right next to each other and our bodies are contacting a lot more now. There’s a book on the sofa of Spanish swear words, and I pick it up and flick through it, saying some of the phrases to her and translating them – things like “I want to fuck you doggy style” and “Suck my cock”. She seems to have an interest in this (hey it’s HER book after all!) and starts reading the book to me in return. I can see she is awakening into a more sexual state.
I accuse her of corrupting me, telling her that I am an innocent boy and she is such a bad girl, and I’ll go home to England totally corrupted. She laughs at that and plays along with it, she slaps me playfully and I slap her back a little. We get into a little fun fight and start making out on the sofa. After a few minutes she takes my hand and leads me to the bedroom. I tell her I want to put my new Spanish phrases into practice in case I forget them. I strip her and we practice some of the phrases and actions I’d learned from her book for the next couple of hours while trying to keep quiet because of the couple across the hall. Trying to be quiet makes it even more fun, like trying not to laugh in class when you know the teacher is watching you and suspects you of laughing. “Shhh”, I tell her again and again, but it doesn’t help. Maybe it even makes her worse. Chicks, sheesh, what can you do, though?
Her bedroom IS a mess, and even messier by the time I head home with my laptop through the 3am streets and past the closed bars.
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