I'm talking about the Daft Punk song 'Get Lucky'.
Check out the lyrics: "I'm up all night to get some...She's up all night for good fun...I'm up all night to get lucky". What are the 3 PUA insights it shoulder trigger when you consider those ideas? Read on.
1. Getting lucky
'Getting lucky' means you somehow managed to meet someone you like but you had little or no control over the meeting process. Somehow, the stars aligned and you mysteriously hooked up. It's like going into a casino and playing roulette. Will the ball land on your number on this spin of the wheel? It's not a good strategy if you want long term success. Would you spend years gambling your time and energy in a casino with no control over the spin of the wheel?
Yet that's the strategy used by countless people in their attempts to meet a girl. They go out, are willing to stay up all night in the hope that they'll 'get lucky' tonight. It's totally disempowering because you have no control once you buy into a strategy like that. You shrug your shoulders resignedly and tell yourself 'maybe tonight I'll get lucky'. How it happens is beyond your control/understanding. Not good.
A far better strategy is working on your reliable seduction/PUA/influence skills so you can deliberately take control of the meeting someone process. If you know what you are doing, you can much more consistently find, meet, attract and close a girl who interests you.
Don't buy into the casino mentality of 'I'm out to get lucky'. Instead, develop an empowering mental approach which puts you in control of the meeting process. You choose a target, you open her, you attract her and display value, you create rapport, you close the deal. That's you in the driving seat, it's not betting on some random lucky numbers.
Just realising your agency is the key awareness. Everything else follows.
2. Differing motivations
She's out for fun. You are out to get some. What a difference.
When you are making your whole motivation 'I gotta get some tonight', then you tend to do bady. Why? Because you end up putting a lot of pressure on yourself to succeed and girls sense that pressure. You don't come across as a cool, relaxed guy. You tend to come across as someone with a desparate agenda when you make that your whole focus. Desparation is not attractive. It also can lead to incongruency in your communication because you have a hidden agenda. Even if you pretend to be relaxed, it's easy for the pressurised underneath to 'leak' out and it makes you seem creepy. It's called leakage.
Now, she might be just as interested in hooking up with the right person as you are but she doesn't make that her entire conscious focus. That's a chick logic way for her to avoid being judged by society for wanting to get layed. But we can steal this strategy and use it in our favour to help us get layed.
Tell yourself that you are out to have fun and meet some new people. Make that your actual aim. That allows your hooking up motivation to exist but takes the pressure off you to succeed at all costs. It also helps you stick with the process longer term because it makes having fun the main aim. When you can inject having fun into a learning process, it encourages you to stay with it long enough to improve and make progress. It's a paradox. By easing off the pedal, you can travel further.
3. All night?
When I lived in Spain, I'd sometimes party all night. The partiers didn't go out till after midnight! I'd come home after meeting HB T. and her chica friends at 6am (see my 'English Patient' post) during my time in Seville. Ernest Hemmingway once said 'nobody goes to bed in Spain until they have killed the night'.
It's fine to stay up all night to have fun but when you are staying up all night to get lucky, it's bad.
When you disrupt your sleep staying awake all night hoping you'll win the lottery, you are desperate.
If you want to stay up all night, do it for yourself, not for someone else. If meeting a girl you like is a secondary pay off, fine.
And who says you have to meet people at night? I've met girls morning, evening and night.
'Get Lucky' - good song, bad mentality.